You Don't Have to Look Broken to Be Hurting
We expect grief to be a visible performance. But sometimes, the most real pain is held quietly within. A personal story about heartbreak, a failed audition, and the irony of invisible suffering.
You Can’t Heal What You Don’t Feel
Just like a dancer learning to hold a stretch at the edge of discomfort, healing grief requires us to stay with the feeling, not force our way through it. A reflection on surrender.
Love, Art, Life — All That Slips Through Our Hands
From the stage to the therapy room, some of the most meaningful parts of life are the ones we can't hold onto. A meditation on releasing the need for certainty.
What Bob Fosse Taught Me About Grief: Holding the Unholdable
Grief teaches us to move with the weight — not to drop it or clutch it too tightly. A reflection on loss, memory, and the grace of holding what remains.
You Can Feel Without Falling Apart
We fear that feeling grief will break us — but it’s how we mend. Learn why allowing emotions to move through us is the path to healing and strength.
The Yes That Empties You: When Giving Becomes Self-Erasure
We give to connect, to matter, to be seen. But love built on need can quietly imprison us. A reflection on overgiving and reclaiming self.
The Light Has to Want You Back
A simple plant. Three months of stillness. And a little lesson about the courage to want light again after being hurt by it.
The Art of Being Alone
Explore how being alone can uncover honesty, foster healing, and teach self-acceptance.
Rewriting the Stories That Hurt Us: How to Break Free from Old Narratives
Our brains link pain to pattern. Discover how narrative therapy helps you let go of stories that no longer serve your healing.
Safety Isn’t the Absence of Danger — It’s the Presence of Connection
Not all rooms feel safe to stay in. This piece explores how our bodies know, and how one genuine connection can help us breathe, stay, and be seen.
Directing on Stage, Holding Space in Therapy: The Two Chairs I Sit In
A reflection on moving between the stage and the therapy room—directing emotion in one space, and sitting with it gently in the other
华人哀伤：沉默里的痛？
在华人文化里，很多哀伤不会被说出口：照顾父母时的无力、关系结束后的空洞、失落带来的沉默。本篇文章从华语心理咨询的角度，谈谈这些不容易被看见的痛，以及我们如何在爱与责任之间找到新的平衡。
When Someone Famous Dies: Understanding Parasocial Grief and Why It Hurts
Why do we mourn people we’ve never met? Explore parasocial grief, identity, and how the artists we love become part of our emotional world.
Chan Mali Chan Won’t Save Us - Why Grief Belongs on Our Stages: Rethinking Culture, Theatre, and Loss
Culture isn’t only the joyful and the bright. Grief, remembrance, and how we carry our dead are deeply human—and deserve space on our stages too.
Beyond Addiction: What Gabor Maté Teaches Us About Pain, Survival & Healing
Inspired by Gabor Maté, this piece explores how addiction, burnout, and overworking are often attempts to escape pain—and how healing starts with compassion.
When Doing Nothing Is The Work
After weeks of giving, creating, and showing up for others, I’m learning that stillness, quiet, and tending to my own roots is its own form of healing.
Grief-Induced Clarity - Loss Rearranges The Furniture Inside You
Grief can bring an unexpected clarity. A quiet shift that helps us see what’s real, what matters, and what we can no longer hide from.
When the Mind Forgets..What Takes Over?
A reflective piece on memory, ageing, and how creativity, humour, and presence can help us stay grounded when the mind starts to slip.
The Irony of Brokenness: When Grief Hides in Plain Sight
Grief isn’t always visible—I learned that through my own heartbreak. We expect pain to be obvious, but sometimes the deepest wounds go unnoticed. In this post, I reflect on the quiet ways we carry grief, why we judge ourselves for not ‘looking’ broken enough, and what it truly means to honor our emotions—whether they’re seen or not.
Hacking Your Happiness: Simple Tricks to Boost Your Feel-Good Chemicals
Discover simple, science-backed tricks to boost your happiness naturally! From laughing at your favorite comedy to basking in a sunny walk, learn how to activate your feel-good chemicals—endorphins, dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin—with everyday activities that uplift your mood and brighten your day. Happiness is closer than you think!