失恋、分手、甚至离婚，看似没有葬礼，却都像一场深刻的告别。你失去的不只是一个人，而是一起构建的生活、未来的想象，以及他在你生命中扮演的角色。
在这篇文章中，我从华语心理咨询的角度，谈谈为什么关系的终结会这么痛、我们该如何收回这些空下来的角色，以及怎样在失落中重新设计属于自己的生活。

我们常以为“哀伤”只会在失去之后才出现，但对许多人来说，悲伤其实更早开始。当亲人病重、父母渐渐老去，或一段关系悄悄走向终点时，我们的心会提前进入告别的状态。这种在失去到来之前就出现的痛，叫作 预期性悲伤。
在这篇文章中，我以华语心理咨询的经验，谈谈这份安静却深刻的情绪、角色的变化、照顾者的挣扎，以及我们如何在爱与失落之间找到新的平衡。

Before the mind explains, the body already knows. This reflection explores “felt sense” and why healing often begins with sensing, not thinking.

Grief doesn't need a tidy resolution. Some days it swallows you; other days it just watches from the corner. This is a note to remind you that both are okay, and you are not broken.

I used to draw houses with trapdoors and defenses, a child's blueprint for coping. Now, I see how those same patterns show up in adult relationships. Healing is about learning to open the gate.

In the uncertain sea of grief, guilt can feel like a solid anchor. But is it holding you safe, or keeping you stuck? A reflection on letting go of the script of self-blame.

We expect grief to be a visible performance. But sometimes, the most real pain is held quietly within. A personal story about heartbreak, a failed audition, and the irony of invisible suffering.

Just like a dancer learning to hold a stretch at the edge of discomfort, healing grief requires us to stay with the feeling, not force our way through it. A reflection on surrender.

From the stage to the therapy room, some of the most meaningful parts of life are the ones we can't hold onto. A meditation on releasing the need for certainty.

Grief teaches us to move with the weight — not to drop it or clutch it too tightly. A reflection on loss, memory, and the grace of holding what remains.

We fear that feeling grief will break us — but it’s how we mend. Learn why allowing emotions to move through us is the path to healing and strength.

We give to connect, to matter, to be seen. But love built on need can quietly imprison us. A reflection on overgiving and reclaiming self.

A simple plant. Three months of stillness. And a little lesson about the courage to want light again after being hurt by it.

Explore how being alone can uncover honesty, foster healing, and teach self-acceptance.

Our brains link pain to pattern. Discover how narrative therapy helps you let go of stories that no longer serve your healing.

Not all rooms feel safe to stay in. This piece explores how our bodies know, and how one genuine connection can help us breathe, stay, and be seen.

A reflection on moving between the stage and the therapy room—directing emotion in one space, and sitting with it gently in the other

在华人文化里，很多哀伤不会被说出口：照顾父母时的无力、关系结束后的空洞、失落带来的沉默。本篇文章从华语心理咨询的角度，谈谈这些不容易被看见的痛，以及我们如何在爱与责任之间找到新的平衡。

Why do we mourn people we’ve never met? Explore parasocial grief, identity, and how the artists we love become part of our emotional world.

Culture isn’t only the joyful and the bright. Grief, remembrance, and how we carry our dead are deeply human—and deserve space on our stages too.