It’s Okay That You’re Not Okay
Grief doesn’t follow a timeline, and it doesn’t need a tidy resolution.
Some days, the pain will feel like it swallows you whole. Other days, it’ll sit quietly in the corner, just there. Both are part of the story. Both are valid.
There’s a Chinese character, 闷, made of 门 (door) and 心 (heart). It’s a reminder that grief can feel like a door we’re not ready to open, or a heart that feels heavy with what’s left unspoken.
But you’re not broken. You’re carrying love—love that doesn’t know where to go yet. And that’s okay.
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Warmly,
George Chan
This Is How We Heal
George Chan, MCOU, is a Counsellor, Grief Educator and Breathwork Coach who specialises in helping individuals navigate grief and loss through his private practice, This Is How We Heal. With a rich background in theatre and entertainment, George brings creativity and empathy to his work. When he's not in the therapy room, you might find him performing, choreographing, or working on a new production—or spending time with Luna, his Jack Russell Terrier, who doubles as his unofficial co-therapist and production critic.