You Can Feel Without Falling Apart
“If I let myself cry, I might never stop.”
I’ve heard this said more than once in my private practice:
But we do stop. We always have.
We come from a long line of grievers —
Our grandparents and great-grandparents loss children, buried loved ones too soon, and still found a way to live, love, and rebuild.
I think grief is something we know deep down, even when we forget.
Grief and loss can look like a barrage of emotions pounding at the door:
confusion, the hollow, guilt, anger, air stolen, shame, not yet—
sometimes all at once.
Ignoring them won’t make the knocking go away.
So what if we open the door?
Invite them to come sit with us.
Pour them some tea.
Ask what they really want to say.
We don’t have to learn how to grieve. Only how to remember we already know how.
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Warmly,
George Chan
This Is How We Heal
George Chan, MCOU, is a Counsellor, Grief Educator and Breathwork Coach who specialises in helping individuals navigate grief and loss through his private practice, This Is How We Heal. With a rich background in theatre and entertainment, George brings creativity and empathy to his work. When he's not in the therapy room, you might find him performing, choreographing, or working on a new production—or spending time with Luna, his Jack Russell Terrier, who doubles as his unofficial co-therapist and production critic.