You can miss it deeply and still not want it back
I keep noticing this: grief and relief.
Sometimes what ends was meaningful, formative, even loved.
And still, its ending brings air back into the body.
Grief doesn’t always mean we want it back.
Relief doesn’t mean it didn’t matter.
Both can be true, without cancelling each other out.
I grieve the ending because it mattered.
I’m relieved because I matter too.
失去的痛，和松开的轻。
有些结束，曾经重要、被珍惜。
而结束本身，却让人重新活过来。
哀伤，不一定是想要回头。
松一口气，也不代表那段时光不值。
我为结束而难过，
也为自己还能继续而庆幸。
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Warmly,
George Chan
This Is How We Heal
George Chan, MCOU, is a Counsellor, Grief Educator and Breathwork Coach who specialises in helping individuals navigate grief and loss through his private practice, This Is How We Heal. With a rich background in theatre and entertainment, George brings creativity and empathy to his work. When he's not in the therapy room, you might find him performing, choreographing, or working on a new production—or spending time with Luna, his Jack Russell Terrier, who doubles as his unofficial co-therapist and production critic.