Grief-Induced Clarity - Loss Rearranges The Furniture Inside You
Grief-Induced Clarity — Not a Term You’ll Find in the Books, But You Might Have Lived It
Had lunch with an old friend last week.
Both of us have lost someone we love, and both went through breakups not long after.
Funny how life schedule these things — as if one kind of loss isn’t enough on its own.
It’s like coming home to a pile of Shopee packages at your door and thinking,
“Wait ah… all this for me?”
There’s a phrase I sometimes use, though it’s not a real textbook term: Grief-Induced Clarity.
With a big loss, something shifts in you.
The noise that used to drown things out becomes quiet. And in that stillness, what’s untrue can’t hold anymore.
It’s not about becoming wiser. It’s like you stop pretending.
You start seeing what’s glaringly there all along, what matters, what doesn’t fit anymore.
And that clarity don’t always erupt in fireworks.
It can be a simple sentence that slips out of your mouth one day, and you realise a part of you had already decided long ago.
That, is how loss rearranges the furniture inside you.
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Warmly,
George Chan
This Is How We Heal
George Chan, MCOU, is a Counsellor, Grief Educator and Breathwork Coach who specialises in helping individuals navigate grief and loss through his private practice, This Is How We Heal. With a rich background in theatre and entertainment, George brings creativity and empathy to his work. When he's not in the therapy room, you might find him performing, choreographing, or working on a new production—or spending time with Luna, his Jack Russell Terrier, who doubles as his unofficial co-therapist and production critic.